I DID IT! I was nervous ... I worked over the course of the weekend (with some help from my mom, a retired Air Force wife) to get the words right ... I got up a little earlier than usual Monday morning ... I wore more makeup than I usually do ... (like more than just mascara and blush) ... I left the house 5-minutes earlier than planned(!) ... I walked into the room of fellow-Moms with confidence in my step and a smile on my face.
I think you, the spouse of a deployed service-member, would be proud! I had a wonderful time telling the room full of MOPS-moms 'my story'. I decided to take them back to where I had been while hubs was in Iraq. I read a number of my deployment-posts, like a story. I admit I took some pieces out of most posts, just as a matter of brevity. If you would read to my own journey through deployment and what I shared with the ladies yesterday-morning:
Bumps, Bruises & Hugs (April '08)
I'm Back (May '08)
Deployment Troubles of a 5 year-old (June '08)
We Have Established Communication (July '08)
Feeling Thin (August '08)
He's Coming Home! (January '09)
Happy (February '09)
A Breath of Fresh, Unhurried Air (March '09)
The Fears of Reintegration (April '09)
Disney World (August '09)
These women don't *know* the military-lifestyle and I never have the intention of making my story sound like I am 'typical' - but then again I don't know that there is a 'typical' military-wife?! While I read and shared my story I saw tears, I heard laughter, I even got choked up myself (while reading Deployment Troubles of a 5-year-old)... it's amazing that reading your own 'journal' can take you back in time *just like that*.
(BTW There are TONS of posts I couldn't read about my deployment experience... because of time... but if you would like to read more: http://militaryblog.militaryavenue.com/search/label/deployment)
I left them with three thoughts. Three things that I hoped they could apply to their own lives:
I will end this post with 'the beginning'. I started my little Monday morning MOPS chat off with a video to show the pure joy a servicemember, military-spouse and their children feel when they return home. I hope you enjoy it too! (If you would like to place it on your own blog or website you can find embed information at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1FJ1ahyTZs)
- Say It. Don't Assume it. I couldn't just give my husband the cold shoulder when he was in Iraq. I had to actually type out my problems of the day. Apply that to your day to day life: Don't assume that he knows how you are feeling or what is running through your mind. Say it.
- The power of a journal. As I was reading through my deployment blogs I was taken back with each word. I was amazed at what I had learned over the course of a year. Howe much I had grown as a person. I encourage anyone to either journal (very personal) or blog (share it with friends & let them in your world).
- God is the center of Hub's and my marriage. Even with thousands of miles between us for a year our marriage still grew and our love for each other remained strong (if not stronger)! Keep God and your faith as the center.
Thank you to all of our troops and their families for their service and sacrifice from MilitaryAvenue.com
- Leanne from MilitaryAvenue.com