As we PCSed around the country, around the world, Dad would take leave and we would venture out as a family to get to know the community. We would go to the zoos, museums, parks, beaches, even foreign-lands in trains, planes & automobiles. Time as a family in a new 'world'. It helped us settle us all. We enjoyed the adventure arm-in-arm as a family. Dad made sure it happened.
“In the Army we have manuals that tell us how to do just about everything,” Shinseki, noted. “But what we don’t have is a manual that tells you how to be a good father." - Forum Supports Military Dads, Family Matters Blog
Hubs is an enlisted-Marine, turned Army National Guard JAG officer. Hubs has faced and triumphed over the growing challenge of being a single-Dad. *J* was born to his high-school sweetheart while Hubs was in college. There was never a wedding and the only life *J* has known is Mom and Dad as separate-entities. I met *J* when he was three, married his dad when he was 7 and he has grown to be one of my own children!
Hubs has always made a very special effort to be there for *J*. When *J* was younger Hubs would call him every night when he was at his mom's to find out how his day was. It wasn't always easy, after all a 4 ... 5 ... 6 year old's phone skills can leave something to be desired. Hubs went on field-trips when he could. Helped him with homework, even over the phone at times, encouraged *J* to be everything that he is. Hubs has gone to court multiple-times to be sure that *J* stays in our lives as much as possible. A part-time dad that was there for him full-time!
Now *J* is taller then his dad, has his own driver's license, a girlfriend and a strong-foundation for the life in front of him. He is growing up to be a very respectable, smart, although clearly a teenager, young man.
Time: Hubs, no matter the circumstance, always has time for his boys. BabyBoy is on his way. Due to arrive early-August. Four sons. Four little-guys that love their dad with all their heart, and get the same sentiment in return. My own dad; raised a daughter and two sons with my mom. He took the time for family-vacations, sports, recitals, trips around town to see the sites. Now he has 6 grandchildren. He always has time for them, too!
Fatherhood. The men in my life didn't need a manual! How blessed I am. How blessed my sons are! I hope you take the opportunity to spend time with your own children today. They crave it! They need it! Listen to them; show them; be there for them! Remind the men in your children's lives that even just 20 minutes in the evening, or a weekend away, can be the start of a great foundation for a life of successful relationships!
- Leanne from MilitaryAvenue.com