Carrot, Egg or Coffee Bean?

My aunt sent me this small story and said it reminded her of something my grandma would say.  She, my gram, was a woman of wise words and wisdom so I couldn't agree more with my aunt after reading it.

We have a lot of struggles in military-life.  PCSs and Deployments are the two big ones but we all know there is so much more.  So when you hit that brick wall ask yourself, "Am I a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"  If you aren't sure how to answer that then read on...

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.She then asked her to take an egg and break it.

After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point,grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter.

"When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I?

Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?

Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

Author Unknown

I knew there was a reason I loved coffee.

- Leanne from MilitaryAvenue.com

Leanne is an Army Spouse, Air Force Brat and mother of four boys.  She PCSed more times in her childhood then can be counted on two hands and has raised her own strong resilient boys while 'Hubs', their dad, served and continues to serve in the Ohio Army National Guard.  A strong faith in Christ and a glass of wine every night helps keep her sane.

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  1. I love this! Thank you for sharing this story!!! I wish I was the bean but I think I'm more like egg.

  2. I like it that life does not define us by just moments in a day. I understand Kate... and remember the hard shell I would wear upon leaving or arriving on a PCS. I would like to think we made egg salad with the kids and drank lattes after! PCS's can spice up things! Just thinking coffee cake is good too! Oh my, I digress!

  3. We all get in hot water don't we! It is what we make of it, and the help we have from spouses, children and friends that gets us out!

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